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Difficult and High-Conflict Divorce

By Neta, founder of SortMyDivorce · 7 guides

THE SHORT ANSWER

Some of what follows is a negotiating posture and some of it is not. Telling the two apart is the whole skill, and the pages here are about doing that without escalating.

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When Delay Is the Strategy

How to tell deliberate delay from ordinary slowness, why it works, what it costs you, and how to build a record that makes it addressable.

Divorcing a Narcissist

Practical guidance for divorcing a partner who is controlling, manipulative, or narcissistic: communication strategy, negotiating and mediating safely.

When Your Ex Doesn't Follow the Court Order

Support breaches and parenting breaches take different routes. What the enforcement agencies do, what a contempt application is, and what to document first.

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Divorce With an Abusive Partner

How to approach divorce when your spouse has been abusive: safety planning first, what protection orders can do, how courts generally treat abuse, and.

Divorcing Someone Who Has No Lawyer

What changes when your spouse has no lawyer: correspondence arriving directly, procedural mistakes that delay your case, and the durability problem.

Divorcing a Narcissist: How to Prepare Without Escalating

How to prepare before divorcing a narcissistic or high-conflict spouse: protecting documents and finances, avoiding common mistakes, and preparing when.

When Your Spouse Keeps Reopening Settled Issues

How to tell the difference between a genuine change of position and a pattern, how to evidence it, and what to do when nothing stays agreed.

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Deciding, and telling themPreparing and getting organisedA letter or a deadline just arrivedMoney, property and disclosure

These guides are general information, not legal advice. Laws change and differ by jurisdiction — confirm specifics with a local family lawyer or your court's official website.

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