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Divorce With Children: Custody and Co-Parenting

By Neta, founder of SortMyDivorce · 11 guides

THE SHORT ANSWER

Two separate jobs that get confused: what the children are told and when, and what the written arrangement says. The first is parenting; the second is a document you will both rely on for years.

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Telling them, scheduling around them, and the arrangements in writing. Use the parenting schedule builder — free, no signup, nothing leaves your device.

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Child Custody Basics

A plain-language guide to the two questions every parenting arrangement answers: who makes the big decisions, and where does the child spend time, both.

Child Custody Schedules by Age: Examples and Templates

2-2-3, 2-2-5-5, week on week off and alternating weeks — which schedule suits which age, why, and printable templates for each.

How to Tell Kids About Divorce: What to Say, by Age

What to say to a toddler, a school-age child and a teenager — with wording you can borrow, and what not to say.

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Child Custody Agreements: What to Include

A clause-by-clause guide to what belongs in a parenting or custody agreement — schedules, decision-making, communication, and the details that prevent.

Co-Parenting After Divorce

Practical guidance on building a workable co-parenting relationship after divorce, including parenting-education classes, useful books, and why keeping.

Co-Parenting With a Narcissist: Parallel Parenting

How to co-parent with a narcissist or high-conflict ex: parallel parenting, the BIFF method for communication, and building a record that protects you.

Divorce With Teenagers

How divorce plays out differently when your kids are teenagers: their voice in parenting arrangements, schedule and money logistics, and what to watch for.

Divorce With Young Kids

How divorce works differently when children are young: parenting schedules, decision-making, daycare and routine, and how to keep the conflict away from.

Divorce and Kids

How custody and parenting decisions work during divorce, what changes by age, and how to build a workable parenting plan while keeping the paper trail.

Fathers' Rights in Divorce

What fathers need to know about custody law today, where old assumptions still linger, and how to build a clear, documented case for the parenting role.

How to Tell a Toddler About Separation

Simple, age-right ways to tell a toddler that you're separating or divorcing, what to say, what to skip, and how to help them through the weeks that follow.

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Deciding, and telling themPreparing and getting organisedA letter or a deadline just arrivedMoney, property and disclosure

These guides are general information, not legal advice. Laws change and differ by jurisdiction — confirm specifics with a local family lawyer or your court's official website.

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